Title: Marriage

Question: It is over six month of my marriage, I am not happy with my marriage from the starting. Actually I do not like my wife, her nature, her looks. It was arranged marriage. She is also not happy with me but she never said for separation. I also never said to her this. Can I divorce her? Is it lawful that if you do not like your spouse you can divorce her? Please guide me.

Answer ID: 43407Posted on: Dec 18, 2023

Bismillah hir-Rahman nir-Rahim !

(Fatwa: 184/171/N=1434) The holy Quran says: وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ فَإِن كَرِهْتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسَى أَن تَكْرَهُواْ شَيْئاً وَيَجْعَلَ اللّهُ فِيهِ خَيْراً كَثِيراً [النساء : 19] Live with them in the recognized manner. If you dislike them, then it is quite likely that you dislike something and Allah has placed a lot of good in it. It is mentioned in Sahih Muslim that Ab Huraira (رضی اللہ عنہ) reported Allah's Messenger (صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم) as saying: A believing man should not hate a believing woman; if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be pleased with another. [Mishkat Sharif, p. 280] It cannot be so that she does not possess any good characteristic. Hence it is my humble advice that you must not divorce your wife. If you do not like her face and characteristic then have patience, it shall be compensated by houris in hereafter, in-shaAllah. Think about her other good habits and characteristics. Also think that if your (son-in-law, father and brother-in-law) leaves your daughter, mother or sister due to these reasons (as in the beauty of any beautiful and in the ugliness of any ugly person he or she does not have any choice, it is Allah who has given different shapes, colours, figures etc to whom He wishes) will you support them and encourage them? Or would you advise them to pass their lives patiently. You will never wish them to leave your daughter, mother or sister and marry with any beautiful woman of their own choice. Hence we advise you again to show patience and not divorce her. Also give her full love along with paying all her due rights as well as do not talk about differences and talaq etc. Also supplicate Almighty Allah that He must give you taufiq for the same. We also pray wholeheartedly.