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Question ID: 13030Country: India

Title: What is sunnah/ islamc way of engagement ceremony?

Question: What is sunnah/ islamc way of engagement ceremony?

Answer ID: 13030Posted on: Aug 30, 2020

Bismillah hir-Rahman nir-Rahim !

(Fatwa: 829/829=M/1430)

Engagement is in fact promise of nikah; this could be in written or oral. Nowadays, it can take place very easily by phone. As far as other formalities are concerned which are prevalent today, they are nonsense and nothing, and if it contains customs against Shariah, it is prohibited.

Allah (Subhana Wa Ta'ala) knows Best

Darul Ifta,

Darul Uloom Deoband, India

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