- Social Matters >> Talaq (Divorce)
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- Q. Assalam-Alaikum - My wife has forcefully obtained a Khula without my consent through an Imam in the USA. She has not informed any genuine reasons to the Imam, who claims that it is permissible to grant her the Khula without a reason or husband's consent. For the sake of obtaining the Khula, she came up with some false allegations against me that the Imam did not verify with me but agreed with her. She has been studying at a different city and denied me access to her during the last one year. Hence I was not given any chance of reconciliation by my wife. She has also taken away jewelry that my family had purchased for her use but as my wife. Being a only child, she has been offered unconditional support of her parents, who claim that I have spoiled their daughter's life, which is not the case. Our marriage was not 100% in order as we both expected to live in two cities and meet often to support my job and her studies. Is this Khula permitted? Can my wife take away the jewelry? Should the reasons of the Khula be shared with the husband for mutual agreement? Is the husband's consent not required at all? I am afraid that such exploitation of Islam is harmful to the institution of marriage. When asked about it, the Imam said that men also abuse their rights. This was not a good answer. Please let me know if this Khula is valid or can be revoked. I really love my wife and do not have any issues with her. I am willing to give her anything to maintain the marriage. What is the solution for this problem? Kindly respond as soon as possible as I am really worried. Jazak-Allah.
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- Q. Assalam Alai Kum, I got married in Nov 2004 in India as per my parents choice and moved to USA in Dec 2004 alongwith my husband to stay here.Immediately within 3-4 months of our marriage problems started and now it is such a case that neither of us like each other and are living together with great torture.We always fight a lot and everytime my husband blames me only and always says that am the root cause of all tension in house and he is very innocent and also always he keeps on telling me that I need to see a psychiatrist as am crazy.....???
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- Q. Me and my wife are married for 3 years now we had a arguement and she has been living with her parents for about 4 months, And we have a child together, a baby boy, now she wants me to divorce her but she is not understanding and her parents have helping her get that divorce but i still love her and i have said sorry to her for my mistakes which i have done, but she still does not want to come back. Can she get a divorce without my consent and without me agreeing.
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- Q. I am Married, 1st time me & my wife separated & compromise by both Jamat after telling that forgive her give a chance that times separated 6 months. Again she left the house for 20 months in this period both Jamat & her family played Politics & games with my life & they caught in my hand. We are in contact with our local Jamat for 8 months & submitted a letter to them. Instead of coming to Jamat all Jamat & her family Palanned to go Mahila Police because whatever they played game it comes infront of all people it will be shame for both Jamat & her family. Before police comming to me they informed police don?t FIR the case just compromise. Police came to my office I was not in office then they took my mother & Bhabhi. Then we called our Jamat they told this case not with us. These are liar they don?t have Imaan. They cheated 1st time in masjid. Now 2nd time through police. Where is the true muslim. While judgment in hubli they will not site with Aalim or Mufti only Members of the Jamat will do judgement. They kill poor People & support only those who are strong in money & contact with politicians. When she was with me after 1st compromise I believe that Tallaq-E-Kinaya happend with me. In one argument she told me don?t touch me, don?t talk me don?t see me etc. that time I told her every thing is over nothing remaining between us. I will not accept you as my wife, go out, no relation between us, you are free from my life, if your family will not take you back u can stay rizq will from Allah. One Mufti told me about Eila this also happens with me. I took a Oath not have intercourse with her when she separated for 20 months. Took oath after 4 months for 4 months. Now wife with me I beleive that I?m doing Zinah. I read in news that if both Jamat not given judgement then police will accept the case. After receiving letter from jamat. in my case they are pre-planned. They informed Police just compromise by forcing me. Some are the signs before qayamat with me 1) False that also in masjid by members of jamat 2) No proper judgment 3) People will not fallow Sariah& Sunnah We are Indians not saw Islam just after hearing accepted Islam, whatever happens with after that my Imaan also stands on one leg Kindly guide me & in what stage am standing now about Tallaq-E-Kinaya & Eila.
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- Q. Is it permissible to give a woman talaaq during the 40 days period after childbirth if a man give his wife talaaq during this period is it valid.
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- Q. Asalamu alikum wb respected scholars of Deoband, My friend divorced his wife 3 times constantly while angry in the presence of an Imam! then they separated for 4 years, now they want to become husband & wife again, what are the precedures for becoming husband & wife after triple Talaaq? May Allah bless you all!
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- Q. One of my friends is in a state of confusion regarding HAQ-e-Mahar. 3 years back he has done his NIKAH with a girl in his relation and he went to abroad for his studies. There was no RUKSATI and the girl was still living at her home. In the mean time the girl lost interest in my friend and she gave the reason that he is very conservative and religious. She was asking again and again for Talaq. In spite of a lot of negotiations from both families this relation was failed and finally last week my friend gave her Talaq on phone and in written. Now the question is, as I stated before there was no RUKSATI took place. Only NIKAH was done. The girl is un-touched. So, the boy have to pay HAQ-e-Mahar or not?
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- Q. My husband has given me talak, my question is whilst I am in iddat, is it my husbands responsibility to provide maintenance for me? and if he does not can i work in order to survive?
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- Q. Please read and give me some advice if possible. I am suffering from a lot of divorce thoughts which come to me without my WILL and without my INTENTION and due to these thoughts I am starting to think and worry a lot, which is taking the peace in my life away at the moment. I am finding it hard to concentrate in my prayers and in my day to day life. I have no INTENTION of divorce and love my wife a lot. At one point in my head/mind I was having a conversation with my wife, where she says "can/could you divorce me or are you going to divorce me" and I reply in my mind "yes". (But this conversation did not take place with my wife, it was only in my head.) Later I couldn?t stop thinking about it and was worrying me a lot. So I decided to E-MAIL a Maulana and WROTE on the E-Mail that after this thought had come in my head , later on I was just thinking and recapturing this conversation in my head and I repeated it to myself verbally. But really I did not repeat this verbally. Just because I WROTE down in the E-MAIL that I did say this thought to myself verbally, when I hadn?t, would this be taken as a divorce? Please note the reason I WROTE in the E-MAIL to the maulana that I said this thought to myself verbally, was because so the maulana could explain what the ruling would be in case I had verbally said this thought to myself. Please reply. I have tried searching for a similar query, but couldn?t find. Jazakalla
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- Q. Question1-When theres divorse between husband and wife,if the Father does not 1-Ask for the children boy and girls who are( baligh and not baligh) or 2-The Father asks for the children but he isn't Deendar and has bad habbits ie having an affair, bad language etc and could influence the children,is the Mother allowed to keep the children,so that the bad habbits of the Father does not influence the children?Q2-If the husband is not happy in divorsing wife but on court papers he has to sign that his divoresd his wife will Talaaq take place? Q2-After husband gives talaq what rights does the wife has on the husbands wealth? Q3-If the girl is 9 years old but not baligh can the mother keep the daughter?and what age does the boy return to father? Q4-If the mother does not return the children to father then is it compulsory on father to pay the expenses of children to mother of children?
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- Q. When divorse takes place of husband and wife,If the Father does not 1-Ask for the children(boys and girls) or the 2-The Father asks for the children but he isn't Deendar and has bad habbits ie having an affair, bad language,not caring for them etc and could influence the children,is the Mother allowed to keep the children,so that the bad habbits of the Father does not influence the children?Question2-If theres a separation between husband and wife through the court,the husband signs on the court papars willingly or unwillingly that he divorses his wife will talaq take place?
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- Q. My friend was married last year. Soon after marriage there was frequent quarrel between them. Within two months of themarriage his wife in his absence, took all her marriage gifts, clothes, etc with the help of her sisters and left the house open. She then pressed for divorce. She sent a legal notice for divorce. She is a doctor and is earning and has not conceived. My friend is willing to give her divorce. She is also insisting on getting written document of talaaq. What is the correct positon on this and what would be the liabilities on my friend? My friend has told her that since marriage was done thru Islamic ways, he would give divorce in Islamic ways, as his marriage was not done through courts. What is the correct position on this? My friend is not agaisnt giving written document of talaq, but as far as I know, if divorce is given in the presence of the wife, then it can be verbal. Am I correct on this? Please gie your views and judgment as earliest, this is a request of urgency.
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- Q. I want to know about the situation, once on sms my husband told me that his parents wants him to get marry, i asked him if he want to marry someone else then first divorce me, he replyed me with sms that i divorce u. I want to know is this divorce valid as i read some where as written divorce without intention doesnt occur i am not sure he wrote that with intention or without intention as he replyed me within few second i am not sure he thought before writing or not.
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- Q. One of my friend had got married 1 year back. He and his wife's families had some differences and the Girl and her family filed a case in civil court for Khula. Husband and his family did not attend to the case and the court gave one sided decision of Khula favour of the Wife. Now the wife has called the husband and wants to comeback to him, saying that her family forced and pressurized her to file the case of Khula. The court has given decision of confirmed Khula on 22nd of Jun 2008. My question: Is there any possibility they can Ruju (have settlement)? I'll appreciate your quick response in this regard.
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- Q. In a Muslim community of Tamilnadu, a group of Muslim elders and religious leaders who adjudicate on matters like divorce, abuse and child custody. The group of Muslim elders and religious leaders have no legal authority but the community can force to accept there judgement. Meeting for judgement happens in mosque, where women are barred entry and cases are decided without there evidence being heard. Woman?s father or brothers represent own daughter or sister. If a woman do not agree with judgement, and go to Indian civil court or police then community go against her. My question is, in this situation what she should do? In the light of women?s right, which is in the Shariyat, not in the light of prestige of relatives, family or community? Q. 2 A woman of Tamilnadu is trying to build a mosque only for women i.e. in that mosque only woman can pray for Allah, and management of mosque will also remain in women?s hands. What says Shariyat about it?
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- Q. I need help in an Islamic Issue. I am in serious trouble. I hope i can get some help here. I would like to know certain things about how i can get dicorced from my husband. I am from India and after marriage i went to Bangladesh with my husband. I was married in the year 2003 , i have 2 kids. My husband tortured me very badly for all these years, he did not let me talk to my parents in India and tortured me in every possible way. Two years before somehow i managed to convince him to take me to India. We came to live in our parents house he tortured me here also. I told me parents about the matter but they are not ready to support me and they want me to continue to stay with him. My parents are planning to get me settled with my husband in India forcefully but i don't want to stay with him. After sufferring his tortures all these years i do not want to stay with him and want to get divorce from him , but he is not ready to give me divorce. When we were in Bangladesh he has said that he gives me divorce many times , he has also told other people that he has given me divorce, which i think is a valid divorce in islam. My parents are not ready to accept that he has given me divorce and want me to go with him. He also says that he has never given me talaq whenever i try to tell my family members. He lies all the times and does not agree that he has given me talaq. How can i get seperated from him legally and by islamic rules please help me. All the years i stayed with him i did not let my parents know about his torture because i was afraid about my parents dignity would get spoiled. I gave him many many chances but he did not stop his torture. We are staying seperately from the last two years but he keeps coming here and keep creating problems. Please suggest the fastest and easiest way for me to get divorce from him. I have given him many chances to improve his behavious towards me but he has failed to do and continued to torture me in every possible way. Please suggest a way. Allah Hafiz
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- Q. I was engaged to Mushtaq Ahmad Shah and the Nikah was performed on 04-03-2004. However the marriage ceremony (on which zafaf/ Rukhsati that takes place as per custom) has not taken place till today because of the rude, cruel and inhumane behaviour of the to be husband (Mushtaq Ahmad Shah). On 18-05-04 he came to our house, beated and tortuted me mercilessly.Since then this dispute has started.On 11-08-2004 he came to the University and misbehaved with me in front of the students and teacher thus humiliating me. Keeping his treatment in view even before the actual marriage (Rukhsati etc), I along with my parents feel that this union will not be of any happiness rather will be full of miseries and problems. Also I fear that I will not be able to obey him properly and indulge in gunah. I approached directly and indirectly (through various Islamic Institutions i.e, Darul Uloom) to him for talaaq/khulah so that I would get free from his clutches. However he is neither giving talaaq nor compromising for khulah. Instead he threatens that he will neither give talaq nor khulah till life. Due to his bad and mischievious treatment, he has not only hurt me physically but also mentally/psychologically and undoubtedly it is not possible for me to live a happy and peaceful married life with him in future. As such it is requested please guide me in the light of Shariah regarding following point. 1. What I can do if that rude and rough person is not ready to give talaaq nor is compromising for khulah. 2. Under such conditions, what action can I take to get rid of him. What are the various options and implications? 3. It may be noted that presently I am doing PhD at University of Kashmir and am of the age 32 years and am wholly and solely dependent on my aged parents. I have no personal income or assets. (It may be mentioned that Mushtaq Ahmad Shah is not responding to the various Darul Fatwas directives. As such it is requested under such conditions what are the ways for legal separation from him according to Shariat Laws.)
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- Q. I have a question. Iam currently living in Australia and my husband lives in Pakistan. We were arguing on the phone and he said these words to me 'maine tumhe talaq di inshallah' what does this mean? Is this divorce valid? Have I been divorced once?
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- Q. One day, to my surprise, my wife left my home with all her belongings, articles, ornaments, furnitures etc. on 24-07-2005. (We got married on 04-01-2004) For this she herself alongwith her sister and mother came to my residence and told me that she is not interested in living with me and wanted to leave by stepping out of marriage and severing all the relationship. She even openly said that she is taking khul-aa (dissolving marriage by wife). Later on the same day she left with all her belongings. Eversince then we are living separetly. By profession she is a Govt. College Professor.I'm a Govt. She is suffering from Paranoid Schizophrenia ( a mental disorder wherein a patient hear and see non existant objects and reacts accordingly ). She and her parents were not inclined to the Psychiatric treatment being imparted by the hospital i'm entitled to for free treatment for myself and family. I'm a Govt. PSU employee. I'm living in my parental house. My other brother and sister are/is married and settled elsewhere. My parents are not alive. I don't have any issue with this marriage. My only liability is my younger sister who is a divorcee. All efforts to reconcile the matter proved vein. I'm alone. Nobody is there to help/lookafter me in my time of crisis/sickness. After such a prolonged separation and the atrocitis and humiliation I was subjected to by my estraged wife when she was living with me, I'm traumatised and even like to forget this relationship. Under these circumstance please guide me what should i do ? Please issue a religious edict (fatwa).
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- Q. If a lady does not follow her "iddat" after divorce. how is it?
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