Title: Assalaamualaikum Mufti Saheb, years ago I did a mistake which seemed to be so great in my wife's eye. She down graded me to the core and at the same time her brother and sister joined hands too in smearing me. The smearing was too much and so great for me to apprehend until I was very much ashamed and angry of what was done to me. My dignity and intergrity was smashed by both of them. As a result, my heart broke and I decided not to talk to my brother and sister in-laws. I could not even see them or hear their names as my anger gets boil up and I would try to avoid to communicate with them at all time. It has come to an extend that if ever they would come and visit my house definitely I would chase them away. But I do not stop my children and wife to see them although I do not like it for them to do so. In short I hate them so much and I consider without them my life is better. Please advise me as I do consider my act as severing the siratturrahim and what shall I do. It is extremely difficult for me as I fear Allah and His messenger's words in regards to severing sirraturrahim. Thank you. Wassalaamualaikum warahmatullah.

Question: Assalaamualaikum Mufti Saheb, years ago I did a mistake which seemed to be so great in my wife's eye. She down graded me to the core and at the same time her brother and sister joined hands too in smearing me. The smearing was too much and so great for me to apprehend until I was very much ashamed and angry of what was done to me. My dignity and intergrity was smashed by both of them. As a result, my heart broke and I decided not to talk to my brother and sister in-laws. I could not even see them or hear their names as my anger gets boil up and I would try to avoid to communicate with them at all time. It has come to an extend that if ever they would come and visit my house definitely I would chase them away. But I do not stop my children and wife to see them although I do not like it for them to do so. In short I hate them so much and I consider without them my life is better. Please advise me as I do consider my act as severing the siratturrahim and what shall I do. It is extremely difficult for me as I fear Allah and His messenger's words in regards to severing sirraturrahim. Thank you. Wassalaamualaikum warahmatullah.

Answer ID: 11006Posted on: Aug 29, 2020

Bismillah hir-Rahman nir-Rahim !

(Fatwa: 335/248=H/1430)

It is exclusive favour of Allah upon you that you feel the disease (severing ties of kinship) and its effects (fear of punishment in the world and the hereafter). Now, only you need to cure this disease. The easiest way is to pay full attention to eradicate the hatred though you face some difficulty and problem. First of all, you should abandon mistrusting your wife, if you still have some doubt then think that you do not have any perfect evidence against her which you can present in Qiyamah and get salvation. And, after all the matters that happened, adopt good morals and good conduct towards the wife and her brothers. If the parents in law are alive, consider them just like you own parents and consider it your good fortune to serve them as much as possible. If they are already dead, keep on doing isal-e-thawab for them. In Bahishti Zewar, there is an article: Har Mureed, balke har Muslman ko raat din is tarah rahna chahiye. Study deeply the article thrice before going to bed.