Title: Problems in My Marriage, Please advice

Question: We (husband and wife) both are cousins to each other and married for around 12 years. We have 2 girl-children. We are into businesses and both contribute equally towards household expenses. We live a modest and humble lifestyle. Both of us loved each other although our close-relatives played spoilsport in our lives all these years, by negatively brainwashing my wife against me. My wife's mother and sister spread false and baseless rumours against me in the family that I do not earn anything thus maligning my image. Since last 14 months, my wife's attitude/behaviour has completely changed towards me and she refuses to have sex with me. I am frustrated due to lack of physical intimacy with her. She has become very rude and arrogant, very opposite to her actual nature which was soft, polite and humble. Please help and provide your valuable guidance to win back my wife's love again.

Answer ID: 44332Posted on: Aug 29, 2020

Bismillah hir-Rahman nir-Rahim !

(Fatwa: 478/370/D=1434) (1) Recite the following dua after Fajr and Asr salah 11-11 times: رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَاماً. (2) There is an amal written in Bahishti Zewar part 9, p. 91 regarding the love of spouses. Do the same as well as behave your wife with politeness and good character. (3) And if there is changing in her mode due to doing the business herself then you should consider over it. It is not good to depend on the income of wife, it creates many evils. Try to create your own source of income so that you are not under the burden of your wife’s income and so that your wife does not become rude and arrogant.