Title: Aslwqm my brother is getting engaged,he has to go to the fiancee's residence and both have to sit on the stage. Relatives wil present gifts etc to them. My brother is denying. Now there is a quarrel between my parents and borother. My abbu says he will do something if he will not go there, as this is the question of prestige and status.So what my brother should do in this case?Please if possible dont put this question on the net. Allah hafiz

Question: Aslwqm my brother is getting engaged,he has to go to the fiancee's residence and both have to sit on the stage. Relatives wil present gifts etc to them. My brother is denying. Now there is a quarrel between my parents and borother. My abbu says he will do something if he will not go there, as this is the question of prestige and status.So what my brother should do in this case?Please if possible dont put this question on the net. Allah hafiz

Answer ID: 12732Posted on: Aug 31, 2020

Bismillah hir-Rahman nir-Rahim !

(Fatwa: 724/544=L/1430)

It is unlawful for the boy and girl at the time of engagement to sit on stage and receive gifts from the relatives. Your brother is right to oppose your father. By disobeying Shariah one cannot get honour and prestige, rather it will end up ultimately in loss and humiliation. The Prophet (صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم) has prophesied in hadith that people will start loving the sin and hating the righteousness, so at this juncture of time one will be counted among the pious slave of Allah who will recognize the righteousness and follow it and will find out the sin and shun it. Hadhrat Thanwi in his books has regarded one who refrains from customs and un-Islamic traditions as the wali and beloved slave of Allah. Therefore, your brother should oppose it and not be ready for the same.