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    Question ID: 2346Country: United States of America

    Title: I would like to know how to erase sensitivity. I have a friend who often ridicules me but says they never mean it, and when I have told them various times that it hurts when they say it. They plainly say ?I?m not going to change so you have stop taking it to heart, don?t give me the sin for hurting you, because I?m not going to change.? So Mufti sahib I have come seeking your guidance on how to change myself.

    Question: Assalamualaikum Mufti Sahib, I would like to know how to erase sensitivity. I have a friend who often ridicules me but says they never mean it, and when I have told them various times that it hurts when they say it. They plainly say ?I?m not going to change so you have stop taking it to heart, don?t give me the sin for hurting you, because I?m not going to change.? So Mufti sahib I have come seeking your guidance on how to change myself. Jazakallah for your time.

    Answer ID: 2346Posted on: Aug 30, 2020

    Bismillah hir-Rahman nir-Rahim !

    (Fatwa: 1538/1360=B)

     

    It is advised to you to share fun with your friends and do not take their joking to heart and do not show that you are hurt. Instead, have fun with them as per their mood. In this way your sensitivity will go away.

    Allah (Subhana Wa Ta'ala) knows Best

    Darul Ifta,

    Darul Uloom Deoband, India