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- Q. Salam , I was married last year in June 2008. I had a great life in Canada and after my marriage I moved to Dubai last november ... I sold everything here and moved to his home in Dubai. My husband who is from pakistan but lives in Dubai has a servere temper anger problem but a sweet side as well ... This is both our second marriage. We have issues like any other couples ... But he is very different , open minded ,, great knowledge of islam but he is not in touch with Allah at the moment as his first priority is his work. He has been with many females in the past , very open minded but yet a good person ... he did treat me well but the problem is that i always seeked attention from him as his working hours were off such as he works seven days a week and due to stocks markets he brings back work at home till late nighs.. so we hardly had time together.... Now the problem is that one night he was very upset and said talaq three times to me and there was no one else present in the room, just me and him. like I said he has a temper and verbally and physically abused me at times with not the right state of mind.... and he also apologized for it later as he didnt know what he was doing .. and i understand i use to bug him alot to take some time out for me.. and in anger i use to make him insecure that i will leave to canada ... which i agree i have my flaws and i seriously worked on it and realised as im not perfect... like i mentioned he knows what he said about talaq as he has great knowledge of islam ... but since he has said that i kept quiet and gave him his space and didnt have any physical contact but the problem is that i cant believe that i am divorced becos i am in love with him and willing to change not by force but becos i want too... he has sent me back to canada and im living with my mother ... he hasnt told anyone in his family or mine.. it is been a month now .. he wants me to move on with my life ... he hasnt called or im not in touch with him ... he just keeps beating around the bush that im stubborn and dont understand .. which i really dont.. he said to me that he doesnt want me and i dont understand why becos i am willing to adjust not by force but because i want too ... This is the first time since we have been married that he has said talaq straight away 3 times.. i was never unfaithful my heart was true all the time loving him and even now ... he called me few days ago to tell me that he is very happy alone and that we are divorced .. basically in less than 5 months of our marriage he thinks he gave me plenty of chances and we should move on right now than later and waste each other time as he feels we are not compatible ... But i dont understand what have i done .. i want to make things work... now that he has given me talaq 3 times ... I dont wish to marry someone else and have intercourse becos I dont want too at all AND I DONT UNDERSTAND why am i being punished by doing so ... I just to re marry my current husband who i love dearly ... please guide me what can be done .. I want another alternative ,, any other way that i can do nikka with the husband im with and in love with without having intercourse or marry someone else... Because I cant do that, its like im being punished while i didnt do anything ... Please i really need help ,,, I ALSO want to know that my husband is born a moslim, he has prayed in the past ... he drinks alcohol he does clubbing women also his work is his first priority at this point .. but he has great knowledge of islam at the other hand .. so i want to know a person like that if he says talaq three times while he doesnt pray , drinks , work ... does that means his verbal words are acceptable to divorce me in islam ? can u please help me becos i dont want to go through this painful procedure of marrying someone else ... kindly advice me what to do .. Thanks
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- Q. Assalamoalekum WW I am a girl of 21 years, I feel in love wid my classmate 3 years back and after thinking a lot with a religious point of view we had Nikah 1 and a half years back, it was a secret marriage involving me n my bridegroom n 3 witnesses( all baligh). we didn't inform our parents about it. Gradually our physical intimacy increased and we had a sexual relationship. about 6 months back, the boys parents got to know about it, they came to inform my parents and his mother warned me not to talk to her son, and left things for the future, the boy was also given this warning. But being in the same class and being sexually addicted it was impossible for us to stay without talking to each other for so long, and things bacame the same between us. Now and then the boys mother keeps on crying and cursing him for taking such a big step without informing her, because being a mother off-course she had lots of dreams for his marriage. I being a girl, dont want to go to his house in the future where my in-laws dont want to accept me. The boy is very religious and he has told me clearly he will do watever his parents ask him to do, if they ask him to divorce me , he will divorce me. I am in a fix now as to what should I do. My parents dont know the details of the nikah and they dont know that I am actually married because they have a different mindset and for them nikah means something like a big ceremony and they think this was just a childish thing that we did and it should be forgotten. They dont know that I was physically involved with him, and I dont have the courage to tell them this. Wat should I do now? Should I stop talking to the boy? In case his parents ask him to divorce me, will I have to Sit on Iddat? In case I am college going, can I sit on Iddat without missing college, as being a student it is very difficult 4 me to miss college 3 months?Is it possible to sit in Iddat secretly? Wat should we do, should we listen to our parents or continue with our marriage? Pleaase reply as soon as possible I am undergoing a very bad phase of my life please help me as soon as possible. Duaon ki Darwkhwast hai
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- Q. ASAKhazraat i would like to know that a certain momim brethen has given talaaq by saying talaaq 3 consecutive times in front of other people off course the talaaq was validated according to sharia , but now he says that he didnt say talaaq he pronounced it talaat so what is the status pls inform me at the earliest as these couple has 3 small kids ALLAH HAFIZ
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- Q. assalamualikum, mufti sahab, mera sawal yeh hai ki agar mene apni wife se aisa kaha "ki agar tum ne aisa kiya tu tumhe talak hai" to kya sirf ek baar kehne se talak ho jaye ge kya.
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- Q. Assalamu Alaikkum Mufti Sahib, My sister is a pious Muslim girl and got married a year ago in a Muslim family. After the marriage, we come to know that his husband is not at all praying any prayer (including Jumma & Eid prayer) and not obeying any of the Islamic duties. She asked about this to her husband and he is telling that, there is no god like Allah and he is not accepting our prophet Mohamed. Also he showed his legs towards sky and telling that I have insulted your allah. Now we kindly request your fatwa for the following, 1) Whether still he is a Muslim or not? 2) Whether the Nikah with my sister is valid or not? 3) Now what are steps we need to take? All of our family members are in a very worrying situation and awaiting your guidelines for proceed further in this matter. Allah Kafiz.
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- Q. Respected Uoolma of Dewoband! This is Nazir Ahmad from Afghanistan. I have a question for which I require your assistance and answer. Please kindly give me the answer to the question bellow: I used to be addicted to Tobacco and Cigarettes and one day I stop using both and toke on ought by three times saying that I will divorce (Talaq) my wife if I either take Tobacco or smoke cigarettes. Back few days I had a cough and someone advised me to smoke Cigarettes and it will help with the cough relief. So I smoke cigarettes for the cure of the cough and now I am in a very bad situation that I should divorce my wife; where divorce is really-really bad in our culture and tradition. Please help me if there will be any solution in Islam for that type of Talaq (Divorce). I look forward to hearing from you soonest possible Sirs! Best Regards!
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- Q. Janab mufti sb. Asslalama alaikum Thanks and jazakallah for the reply for my matter regarding fatwa no. 11436. In response to your reply I want to ask futher- 1. What is the impact of one talaq on our married life? 2. What to do to rectify the one talaq? Thanks in advance for your resopnse.
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- Q. Peace on you, Respected Sir, need your opinion regarding a matter of Talaq please guide us in accordance with Quran ?o-Sunnah. Dispute between husband and wife due to unnecessary interference of in-laws and wife was favoring the in-laws instead of husband and ignoring what the husband saying to her. So husband decided to leave his wife and informed the in-laws that if they don?t stop interfering in the personal life of husband and wife and wife kept doing against the will of husband then husband has no choice but to divorce her. After informing the in-laws the husband asked a lawyer about the legal formalities of divorcing his wife and at home read the Chapter of Talq in Bahishti Zaver and in office on the internet he searched for what the Quran-o-Sunnah or Islamic view of (the Islamic Research Foundation) and (Islamic Shria Council) Second day the in-laws of that husband called him and said that don?t do any thing in haste because his wife was in state of anger and if she said some thing wrong she does not meant that. the husband agreed and said that if his wife wants to live with him then its ok with him he went to in-laws met his wife and told her that he will send his father to settle the matter or clear the maters and then when he came to take her back she must come with him and the wife agreed on this after that husband left the in-laws. Next day when husband sent his father to clear matters then same thing happened again that my in-laws influenced on my wife and she refused especially my mother in law and eldest brother in law they said to his father that their daughter/sister will not go with your Son at all when his father said that he is here to clear all the previous disputes and want to give the children a fresh chance to start the life again his wife said to his father that she will not go in his house again and she don?t want to live with him any more after that his father came back and told him that his in-laws will not send his wife and saying that they will not send her at least for two months. On this the husband went to in-laws and ask his wife (who one night ago said that she will come back when ever his asked her) to come with him but she refused to disobey her mother and brother and said she will not come on this point the husband lost his temper and said to her that if so I divorce you I divorce you I divorce you and left the house. But according to husband he never intended to divorce her three times his intention was of one divorce so his in-laws take him seriously and latter if they wants to solve the matter or his wife accept her mistake then he can take her back. According to him when he was divorcing her the Masla # 13 of Bahishti Zaver and articles on the internet he red and listened was in his mind. And now he is saying that his intention was of one not three and he is willing to testify in front of Allah. Please guide us in this matter Thanks
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- Q. Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah Hajrat mufti shahab I have three questions to ask 1.i recently I got married last year I spent 50 days with my wife after I back to UAE she become pregnant we because of some family problem she decided to leave me there is nothing mistaken from me or from my family and each and every time I did moshwara with my ameer shahab and ulama unfortunately one I was talking to her by phone she were so excited at that time I use that word I gives you 1 talak this word repeatedly come out twice from my mouth my neeatt not to give talak just to threat her to become cool down at that time she is pregnet for 4 months after we continuing our communication each others again its happened after delivery a baby boy I used the same word that I gives you 2nd talak now she change her mind she want to continue her life with me I did moshwara with 2 alim and ameer shahab stated them all details what happened from the beginning they said she is dangerous for deen and dunia they give ijajot to divorce her in this situation how many talak will be counted and should I follow the advice (moshwara) of them I loved her a lots once I feel I will accept her again and tolerate all her zulm may be Allah will give me jaja in akirat what shall I do in this situation please reply me 2. I want to send my brother to study in deaoband embassy of India refused visa because of world situation how can I send him to sohbote ahlullah in deaoband or let him to study in darul ulum hathajari which is a graet qaumi madrasa in Bangladesh 3.i heard bayan of moulana rehman usmani and moulana rab nawas hanafi of pakistan that they said ustad of moulvi kala hajrat ahmed raza was mirja gulam kader brothe of murtad qadiany is it true Thanks a lots allah gives you jaja and I pray to allah to create many ulemas and muftis such as shaikul hind,goagoohi,nanutwi.kashmiri and other akabir e ulama e deoband
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- Q. As salaam alaikum ! With reference to fatwa number 10525 , i would like to make a query that if the wife sends an sms EVEN AFTER her husband says through sms ...." If you send any more sms you know nikaah will be over and the iddah period will start, you know it will be over" and before this the husband has already sent 2 sms just before that saying ...." Main Mr.X Ms.Y to TALAAQ deta hun " has the 3 Talaaq's taken place ?? please " HELP" !! I am in great distress...........
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- Q. As salaam alaikum, i m in a great problem.....please tell that if a husband says to his wife " We are sleeping together for the last time and after this we will never have sex " then they live separately in different cities for one whole year, will this amount to Talaaq ?? please help me by answering this question. Allah hafiz!
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- Q. recpected sir assalamu-alaikum, i want to know that if a lady wants to divorce her husband only because of the reason that he has got another wife, is her demand "jayaz". She loves her husband very much and visa versa and has no other complains against him, its only that she cannot share her husband with another woman. 1)So if she wants a divorce on this ground, is it right or sinful. 2)can she take a divorce for this reason,like will the qazi allow or agree with it because i know that a man can hold four wives at a time. 3)is it necessary for a women to have a jayaz reason to leave her husband, always because in my question the man done nothing najayaz. 4) can a husband force this kind of relationship on a wife. like tell the wife that he will keep them both and will not give her divorce just because she cannot digest the other lady. plz inform me through my email address when you answer me back. jazak allah!
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- Q. Janab Mufti Sb. Assalama Alaikum, What is the correct way from islamic point view, for a talaq to happen? If a husband brings only name of talaq in the anger while having fight with wife, without any intention of doing it like " I'LL GIVE YOU TALAQ" OR asking the wife "TAKE TALAQ", OR he says while fighing with wife " you leave me", What would be the impact of it on married life?
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- Q. I have been seperated from my partner/ex since 2004 now. She walked out with son and made a court case alleging domestic violence etc. After 3 years, Halhamdulillah, the son lives me. She lost her as court decided that she has mental illness. Is Talaq automatic in this case? I have tried to patch up with her but she swore at the case workers.I have also given her talaq over the phone 2 years ago and also some other time, without witnesses but she says do whatever. She also said that my mother will goto hell when she passed away.I need to move on as I am ill and has a son to look after. Please give some advice. Jazakamuullah Khairun. Wa Sallam.
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- Q. ASLK ,My brother divorced his wife some 2 years ago because his Wife Committed a Zina (illicit relationship. The local Kazi issued a Fatwa stating that husband returns back the meher, gifts and also the ruling said that the elder son who is 8 years old to stay with father and the daughter who is 6 years old to be with mother. But my brother refused this fatwa, but as per shariaah he returned back the meher (land worth around 5 lakhs) but he refused to give his daughter as well the jewel which he gifted to his wife. He said that he will give his jewels to his daugher and also said that he will not allow his daughter to grow in an atmosphere where his wife and her family character , morality is not good and conducive for child's growth. Which i feel he is 100% correct. Could you please advise me on this matter? Allah hafiz
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- Q. Assalamwalaikum, I want to ask you if after nikah a girl runs away with another man who is also married than does talaq happen?what if the girl wants talaq and the boy does not want to give talaq can she get talaq by herself?what will happen if the boy does not give talaq and they stay apart for a year will talaq happen then if the girl wants?
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- Q. Dear Mufti Sahab, I am mentioning consequences first and then asking few questions as given below. Detail of the affair, as given below: - I had a fight with my wife, within first month of our nikah, till then she didn?t have menses. Which upsets me a lot. She was shouting, and was asking TALAQ from me. I was already in serious depression, because of that fight and was thinking of "Is this, for what I married to this woman". I was deeply upset and in depression at that time. My wife kept asking me to give her TALAQ and leave her, numerous times during that fight. She kept yelling at me, to put pressure on me. Due to which I thought or I may say, that I decided to give her "3-TALAQ at once", so that I will not be able to return to her, even if I wish to. I wanted to make her feel the same pain I was feeling that time, after giving her TALAQ. So, that she will be able to return to me or stay with me as a wife, or through giving her shelter in my home and keep her with me and fulfilling her all financial needs, but not touching her at all. But, when I said to her that "I am giving you 3(three) TALAQ at once, so that from now on, you will become haram for me and I could not return to you, neither take your duties as a wife, from this TALAQ you will be an independent woman and can marry any other man, to whom you like". She immediately got shocked and started crying and telling that she didn't wanted TALAQ. Instead she was expecting some nice words and supportive behaviour from me. Then, I thought of "what I had done?? but in heart I didn't want to get her back in nikah, even if, it is allowed. So that she has to feel the pain of not getting love, attention, understanding and care of the husband, while living under the same roof. But, the host, in whose home we were staying, told us that it was not TALAQ and TALAQ could not happen in this way. Specially in feeling of aggression, depression or anything, when mind is not in normal state or when man's saying or behaviour are different from his regular and normal Mood / behaviour. Which seems logical to me. Due to which, I returned to my wife and made sexual contact with her on the same night. And after that day I kept normal physical relation with her. Through which she become pregnant & now she has 6 months of pregnancy. Questions:- 1. Please guide me; do I really gave her TALAQ and will it happened ? 2. Are we still in NIKAH ? Do I permissible to keep normal marital (physical / sexual) relation with my wife ? 3. What if, after that day of the fight giving her TALAQ, I returned to her and kept normal marital (physical / sexual) relations with my wife. Due to which she became pregnant and having pregnancy of 6 (six) months ? 4. What about our soon to born child ? What ALLAH and his prophet SAW says about him ? What is mentioned in the Shariah about the child born due to and under such circumstances ? 5. Due to above act, will ALLAH punish us ? Then what will be his punishment ? How could we both repent to ALLAH for our sin, if it is. So that he forgive us for our ignorance. What ALLAH and his prophet SAW says in QURAN and HADITH ? 6. What will be the rules in Shariah, please answer with full and complete references of QURAN and HADITHS ? 7. Please, Give full and complete references of Quran and Hadiths of all your answers. So, that it will be possible to cross ? check all references you will be giving in this respect. Please publish reply of the above both on your website, so that everybody can see and be clear on such an important and common matter. And also send a reply through email.
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- Q. My Sister is now 55 years and married for last38 years,having one son aged 29 years,with 2 childrens,all staying toghether.My bother in law,aged 56 years,but is diabetic for about last 25 years and not physically fit ? My question here is it permisable for my sister to ask for a divorce on the grounds of medical problems of my brother in law ? my brother in law is maintaining my sister well in all other aspects,but they are having some arguments time and again,which may be the cause of my sisters depression like situation ?Please kindly advise on this matter in view of shariya. jazakumulluah.
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- Q. As salam aleikum,iam a working women and would like to divorce my husband which i have already informed him verbally,from last 8months i and my my daughter are staying with my parents. since my daughter birth iam the only one who has taken care of her in all the ways,koi bhi reponsiblities nahin nibhayi,10years i worked alone and he used to sit at home.Now when i have decided to divorce him same time i got the offer letter from Dubai....in this situation is it necessary or complusary to complete the iddah period.If i do so i will miss the opportunity as they can't wait till i complete my iddah.
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- Q. Is divorce valid if sent by an email.
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