When I was going for my mandatory Hajj in 1997 I had made promise with my wife that I shall go with you for Umrah when I shall receive definite amount. I received that amount accordingly. But I did not travel for Umrah till today because my parents are alive and it seems that it shall be incorrect to go with wife and leave the parents. I always feel parents have more rights on son earning in nafl expenditures, like going on Umrah. I have tried but could not save as much money that I could go for Umrah with wife and parents both.
Question:- Please explain the Shariah ruling regarding equilibrium in nafl expenditures between wife and parents and how can I fulfill my commitment made with wife when I was going on Hajj.
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
You should have fulfilled your promise that you made with your wife regarding taking her for Umrah on receiving some definite amount. It is very much possible that Allah has given you the definite amount due to your wife. There is no violation of your parents’ right in case you take your wife there. You should supplicate for your parents when you reach there. It is possible that with your dua your parents also get the chance of performing Umrah.
Allah knows Best!
Darul Uloom Deoband